food and friendly gatherings: what do you do?
If you have a specific diet you keep(paleo, candida-free, vegan, gluten-free, etc) for non-medical reasons- meaning you won’t die, become violently ill or have severe reactions-what do you do when you’re invited as a guest to someone’s home for dinner?
In my home, in my kitchen, I’m the one in control. I make the shopping list, I go to the store, I prepare everything. And I enjoy it. I keep a pretty strict diet and even though Jordan isn’t always necessarily on board I make sure to stick to my diet in my home, when food is in my control.
But what happens when you’re invited to someone’s home for dinner…when food is no longer in your control, but in the control of someone else who may not be aware of your diet, or may not be in agreement or acknowledge it? If they don’t ask before-hand if there are certain things you don’t eat, do you tell them so that they can make arrangements specific to you? Do you inform them and then offer to help or bring something yourself? Do you not eat what they’ve prepared? …or do you just eat? Do you feel comfortable asking a host to prepare something different for you?
I fall into the “just eat” category, usually.
But I would really like to know how others handle this situation. So if you’re reading this and it applies to you, please comment. I’d love to hear your take on it, seriously. Maybe having some input will change my view.
I keep quiet, even when asked(except for my fam-they get me), about my dietary habits when it comes to being a guest in someone’s home. I don’t want to make anyone go out of their way preparing foods they’re not comfortable or familiar with. I don’t want them to spend extra time and money on just me. I don’t even offer to prepare and bring my own dish because I really think that’s just rude and weird. It’s one thing if you’ve got a medical condition that requires constant obedience, but when it comes to choosing a food lifestyle based solely on your beliefs(which is your prerogative and more power to ya for making informed food choices) I think dictating what you eat, as a guest in someone’s home, is just crossing a social etiquette line. And really, is one little meal, that’s meant to be a time of entertainment and fun, going to derail you so much? It shouldn’t. Because it is food after all…something that we often take for granted, when there are far too many human beings(adults and children) going hungry, day in, day out.
This is just my own opinion regarding a topic I’ve not talked much about with others. So please, inform me on how you handle yourself in these situations! I want to know!